Special Note - This article was written by my good friend, Duke Dawson. Duke really pisses me off! Every time we go out together, this guy meets twice as many women as me, and he doesn't even ask for their phone number... they chase after him as we're leaving to GIVE it to him. (You should see the crowds of women sometimes. It's pretty funny.)

Duke Dawson Presents...

How To Make Meeting Women So Easy That Other Guys Will Think You Have Magical Powers!

I just spoke to my friend Tom Vizzini on the phone, and he told me something that just blew me away! You hear all this talk about needing more confidence in order to be able to approach women, and yet I have discovered that just the opposite is true.

Let me explain.

Right now, even as you're reading this, take a minute and think about your job. Do you talk to people at your job, even a little bit? How about when you need to walk up and talk to one of your beer guzzling buddies, do you get nervous or freeze up?

What makes this different than talking to women? I'll tell you exactly what's different about it.

Now, I can already see you raising your hand in objection, so let's talk about this. There's something that you've been missing all this time about talking to women. I bet you're probably one of those guys who thinks that you need to be "confident" to talk to women, right?

Okay smarty pants, let me ask you something. When you were talking to your boss, or your beer guzzling buddy (they're not the same person are they?), did you have to work up the nerve to talk to them? Did you have to get your "confidence up"?

In fact, did you really even think about anything else but what you wanted to talk to that person about? I bet you didn't. You just walked up and said your piece, and that was it. You weren't thinking about being rejected, or fired, or dumped by your best friend.

I'll you what you were doing though...

Stop scratching your head and listen. Those guys who you think are "confident with women" are really NOT. I'll tell you what they are doing, and this is the secret right here.

They were IGNORING all the mental chatter that speaks up when you see a beautiful woman.

Think about it. What do you say to yourself when you want to go talk to a woman? Do you say things like:

• "Oh, she probably doesn't go for guys like me anyway."
   

• "Wow, look at her! She probably has a boyfriend, and besides... I just farted, I can't go over there now."
   

• "Look at those expensive clothes. She won't like me, because I don't make enough money. I'll just stay here and sip my drink."

Okay you get the point. Now, does any of this garbage come into your conscious awareness when you're "just talking" with your buddies or co-workers about regular stuff? Of course not. It's still there in your mind, but you're conscious mind is ignoring it, because it doesn't feel it's necessary for your survival in that moment.

But put a great looking woman in front of you, and all your past programming comes SLAMMING into the front of your conscious awareness. This is natural. If you view rejection as something that's painful, and to be avoided, then your mind thinks it's doing you a favor by making sure you don't go for it and risk getting rejected or embarrassed.

So what I'm saying is this. Men who are really good at walking up and talking to women are good because they are not having those thoughts about avoiding rejection. They just walk up and start talking. There is no "confidence in the face of danger" type of thing going on here.

So how do you GET to the point where you do that? It's really easy, and it takes some practice. If you're willing to practice, then you will get there in no time. All you need to do is talk to as many women as you possibly can in the shortest amount of time.

Seriously, that's the key. Do you really think that if you went up and talked to 10 women per day, that by day 2 you would have ANY hint of all the negative self talk that held you back? The answer is no, not really. Know why?

Because now your subconscious mind has NEW references for this thing called talking to women that are pleasurable. Think about it, in the past, you might have gotten rejected and it was really embarrassing (I'm talking grade school here), and some people gave you shit about it. Well that's pretty painful isn't it?

So your mind took those one or two incidents and represented them in your mind as "this is what talking to women is like, do not do it". However, once you start talking to a LOT of women, you will start to see that dating is a numbers game.

You will soon realize that...

You will see rejection differently, because you realize that it's really not personal. Hey come on, think about it. Do you really think that a beautiful woman can go home with EVERY guy who approaches her? Be real, she gets approached probably 5-10 times per DAY.

I went out shopping the other day for a new car. Now I'm a big fan of the Toyota Camry, so I went out and test drove a couple. There was also this HOT 2001 Ford Mustang on the lot, and he noticed me looking at it. He immediately assumed that I wanted that car more, so the salesman began pushing the Mustang on me really heavily.

I told him that I wasn't interested in the Stang, and I saw the look of disappointment in his eyes, as if he had lost the sale. Now since I've been trained by some really good people in the art of communication, I noticed this right away. Here's what I said to the guy.

"Hey look, I came here looking to buy the new Camry, which is MORE expensive. Just because I don't want the Mustang doesn't mean that I'm rejecting you or the car, it means that...

Same thing goes for women. Maybe you are that hot Mustang, and she's looking for a Volkswagen Jetta. Don't take it personally man, it's not about you. It's about her and what she's looking for. It has nothing to do with whether or not you're good enough.

The Mustang was plenty good enough for me, but I prefer Camry's. Do you get the picture?

I hope that helps you learn to accept "rejection" as just a result, not a failure. Hey, let me repeat that so you really hear it.

Do you have any questions about these ideas? Email me and let's talk.

Duke Dawson
http://www.learnhowtomeetwomen.com

P.S. - That guy Tom Vizzini (the one I mentioned at the beginning of this article) is an awesome trainer on how to communicate with all kinds of people. I learned this concept from him, so go check him out. His site is: http://www.essential-skills.com